Nathan’s opinion: Au Pair program

I’ve wanted to add a few posts like this for a while now because Nate has something to say as well and some of you asked for it. So I decided to finally put him on a chair and interview him. In this post he’s talking about the au pair program seen through a host family’s eyes, later he’ll talk about our relationship and Poland. Most of the questions are from you so if there’s anything else you’d like to know feel free to leave a comment!

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I didn’t change anything in his answers.

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    1. When you were looking for an au pair, was it important for you to chose from specific countries and avoid others? Which ones? Why?

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I had a preference for countries like Norway, Sweden, Finland and so on because they’re more secular. Other than that I didn’t have any other requirements like this.

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  1. What was the most important thing you were looking for in au pair applications?

That the person valued listening and respect for children, displayed importance of being assertive rather than being dominating or passive. I also liked applications of au pairs who didn’t have their families in them. I wouldn’t chose anyone who used a word “discipline”. I also wanted a non smoker.

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  1. Were videos important? Would you consider an au pair candidate if she/he didn’t have a video on her/his profile?

I looked at those with videos. If I didn’t find anyone with a video that I’d like I’d probably go to the ones without videos but they wouldn’t be on top of my list otherwise. I’d think that those without videos weren’t really into it, didn’t care enough to make a video or there’s something wrong. Some people had really annoying voices that I wasn’t able to listen to. I was looking for someone who’s authentic.

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  1. Did it matter if you had a male or female au pair?

It normally wouldn’t matter but I was looking for a female role model for Alicia so I preferred female. However, I had a few men in my list too.

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  1. Why did you chose Aga?

Because in the video she came across as being authentic and her accent wasn’t that bad [laugh]. She also seemed intelligent and competent. Also, she’s blond and so she looks totally different than Alicia’s mother, I really didn’t want to have someone looking like Alicia’s mother. Authenticity was the most important thing and she definitely seemed like that which was awesome. Actually, I matched with someone else before Aga, a girl from Sweden, but she sent a message to me saying that she found a job and didn’t want to go to the US anymore. After this I found Aga’s profile, right after she added a video to it.

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  1. What’s your advice for future au pairs?

The advice I’d give au pairs candidates that really want to have an enjoyable experience while being an au pair, not the ones who want to come here to party, is that talking about how they relate to children is very important. It’s awesome to see them with children in the video together, maybe even a kid talking about her/him. Talk about what you’d do when a child causes you a problem because the number one source of conflicts is a difference between the ways of methods you and a child’s parents have. An au pair needs to make sure how a host family expects her to treat children and so on because if parents want her to beat their kids or let them do whatever they want she’ll need to know about it and decide if she wants to be like this. Also, ignore advice given you by people working in your agency if it comes to your application and what’s in it.

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  1. When you were looking for an au pair, did the thought about maybe finding a girlfriend this way come to your mind?

No.

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  1. Why did you decide to have an au pair instead of hiring a babysitter?

Because it’s a long term commitment and I wanted to have someone who’d stay for a longer time. I wanted to find someone from outside American culture in the hopes that they’d be more respectful toward children. And it’s cheaper.

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  1. Was it important for you that an au pair would be a member of your family or it wouldn’t matter if she wanted to go out every day right after she was done with work?

It was important that an au pair would have a genuine relationship with other members of my family, especially Alicia. I don’t see it possible to have this and treating this as a job only, I really doubt it. I didn’t want anyone to feel obligated to stick around but I wanted them to find this place and us appealing, it should be a fun thing instead of an obligation.

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  1. What would be a reason for you to go to a rematch?

Well, if there’s no genuine relationship forming or they can’t resolve problems with respect.

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That’s all if it comes to part one. I hope that one of the host families’ voice will help some of you who’s applying to the program. If not then maybe you found out something new about Nathan :).

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Talk to you next time,

Aga

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