Today I’m coming with a “everything and nothing” kind of post! I was thinking that I might add some pictures but then I realized that I don’t take any pics lately because, well, what kind of pictures to take… Okay, let’s do it! A song for the beginning! But which one…
I received several questions about consequences after getting married while being au pair and also I saw a lot of doubts on the Internet so I thought I’d share my story with you 🙂 Short and to the point!
Some of you might know that I arrived to the US as au pair on November 4th, 2013 with Au Pair Care agency. I extended my stay for the second year even though me and Nathan were already a couple because only then I could stay in the country legally. My second year was supposed to end on Nov 4 this year. In this case I had to send an information about when I want to go back to Poland by the end of September and they say that in case of being late au pairs have to pay a $100 fee. Moreover, I really didn’t want to receive any more messages from the agency so I was just waiting for a moment when I could tell them that I wanted to leave the program. And so I sent an e-mail that I want to leave since I already have my Green Card. In response, I got an information that if I want to do it with no reasons and consequences, I should give them the address of a place I’m going to stay in and send them a copy of my Green Card or of a confirmation of application acceptance. And that’s all. After I sent the copy of this confirmation, my program was ended in the same day. I even got congratulations from people from the agency about creating a new family 😉 And the day after that I learned that my Area Director doesn’t work there anymore. I’m curious if these things have anything to do with each other.
How agencies look at getting married while being au pair and having a J-1 visa? If it comes to law or something, getting married with the J-1 visa doesn’t break any laws so don’t worry. Whereas, if it comes to agencies then, well, there’s everything explained in agreements and, by the way, I’ll tell you that I’m surprised that so many au pairs don’t read their agreements… Anyway, one of the points in the agreement with Au Pair Care (but from what I know it’s the same in all the agencies) says that au pair agrees not to enter into any contracts – religious, civil (including marriages), etc. during the program. In case of breaking this one (or any other ones too) au pair is removed from the program and has to go back to her/his home country. It’s because the agency sends a notification to Department of State and they cancel a DS-2019 form because it’s not needed anymore. Without this form, J-1 visa isn’t valid so in a situation like this au pair would stay in the USA illegally and the agency can’t agree for that especially because everyone already knows about this au pair. However, I found out that you can settle everything amicably but only when you can stay in the country legally, which means only when having documents allowing to do so.
The first day of school in Georgia was on August 7 so soon it’ll be a month of Alicia going to the first grade. In general, our plan was different about her school (I might talk about this one day) but things got complicated so she went to a public elementary school, seven minutes from our house. She says it’s cool, she likes children and she’s happy in general. One thing she doesn’t like is getting up early – so obvious, who likes it?! – and the length of classes because it’s 6,5 hours every day. And how much homework they give them! When I saw it for the first time, I was shocked and I think it’s definitely too much. That’s enough for those 6 year olds sit in one position on chairs for so long but then they spend so much time with that homework at home… That sucks, I hate it! I’m not surprised that kids don’t like it either. Suddenly, their whole childhood was taken away from them. It sound terribly, doesn’t it? But you know what’s good? They don’t have to carry million books and notebooks to school. Alicia has only her lunch, a toy and that’s all. Other stuff is at school and parents didn’t have to pay for anything. And you know what Alicia did today morning? She usually comes to me and she lays by me or I do her hair, or something. And today she asked how’s my baby and so I said well, it’s okay I think but I don’t feel well. She said OK, she’d be back. She went downstairs, then she got back and then she gave me a blanket in case my cover wasn’t enough, water to drink, a slice of bread to snack and a toy rabbit to keep me some company after they leave 🙂
Do you know what I do in my free time that I have a lot lately? Besides sleeping and watching tv series and movies, of course. I play The Sims! Cool. I think it’ll be my first time to fulfill all life desires of my Sims. I also bought yarns and I want to start knotting 😀 My mom and grandmother used to do it and I could do that too but it was so long ago! I’m glad there’s YouTube where I can find a lot of tutorials because it’ll be easier. If I make something cool, I’ll show you. If not then I’ll show you anyway 😀
OK, that’s all. I feel like eating grapes so I need to take a tour to my refrigerator.
Talk to you next time!